I was talking to a little girl this week. I asked what she wanted for Christmas. She answered that she would like a Unicorn. I said something like 'oh -a stuffed one?' She looked at me a bit strangly and said no, she wanted a real unicorn. One that she could keep in the backyard, and feed, brush its hair and ride. I wished her the best of luck and carried on with my day, but it got me thinking,
If reality wasn't an issue, what would you really want for Christmas?
I didn't have a good week last week. Everyone is healthy, fed and happy and I got stuff done, but I felt very stretched and tired, overworked and underappreciated.
When I thought about it though, I realized I hadnt' done anything for myself all week. Every time I had a free moment I was focused on accomplishing something else for someone else. I did nothing for ME! I put myself on the bottom of the pile and in the end, that's how I felt.
It happens more often then I'd like to admit, and I would guess it happens to most of us, fairly often.
So, in an effort to stop letting it happen to you, here are 5 ways to move self care to the top of your to do list so that you can take the time for you when you need to.
I often have very lengthy conversations with parents about the cost of breastfeeding help. Since IBCLC's are not covered by OHIP, or by most insurance plans, it can seem very expensive to lay out a large sum of money for something that we, in Canada, are used to getting for free - good help with a 'medical' problem.
Yes, there are free services available, and sometimes they help, but sometimes they aren't enough or can't provide the service and support you need.
What I ask you to consider is this,
What is the emotional cost of not getting this help?
Earlier this month I wrote up the story of our miscarriage for a friends blog. (Want to read it? You can find it here...http://www.juliesaunders.ca/blog/jandys-story). The post itself was cathartic to write, I found I enjoyed putting my thoughts and feelings down on paper. And, I'd been thinking about doing this for some time, so...here you go. My FIRST OFFICIAL BLOG POST!
Like I said, I've been thinking about doing this for a while (so long that I actually have a list of topics I want to cover in my journal) but now that I sit down to actually do it, I have NO idea where to start.
so, 'lets start at the very beginning. Seems a very good place, to start!'